Live by the rule of Karma or Karma in life as an everyday principle.

9am Wednesday, 23 December 2009. I have woke up to the wife and Daughter arguing again… it is the same old same old… Daughter cannot get up in time and is making the very stressed wife late for work. They work together, when my hard working daughter is not at Uni.

As I reflected on whether I was a bad person to let this continue, whether I was doing the right thing in my own life a stunning revelation came to me. My guide came and said, "Why do you feel so bad about this? Would you change things? Why don't you reflect?" with this came the stunning realisation that I had lived by the rule of Karma all or most of my life.

This is more relevant than I ever imagined. It is not as some may immediately think, revenge, it most certainly is not that. Oh no, it is something far more spiritual than that ever could be. Revenge is not a good thing. It is not to be sought after and I realised at that moment that it is never an answer, at all. The spiritual thing is to let them go their own way so they learn the lessons they are supposed to, it came as I say as a blinding revelation.

I suddenly realised that my whole attitude through life was to help people even if it was to my own detriment and this has certainly been the case. I would continually help until I got to a certain point and then I would say, "Okay fine, you are not taking the hint. You want to continue and stubbornly keep hitting your head against the wall, when you wake from your stupor, you will realise that not only does it hurt you, you have wasted a great deal of time doing it" as always with Spirit and Spirit truth, blindingly simple!

I cannot and would never have known as a conscious decision that this is the way I have always run my life. For years sixteen to be exact, I paid the majority of the bills. I paid the mortgage, all the insurances, car expenses; in fact, I spent ninety percent of my wages on the bills. This is despite my wife, always, being the breadwinner. We bought our first home in nine-teen seventy-nine a year before we married. My wife had been lucky in that she has always been a studious and hard working person. She had been lucky enough to have landed a good job from a young age and been blessed by the common sense and practice of learning quickly.

She progressed and became after some time, a manager. I have been blessed with the experience of many jobs some of which I have loved, including this one of being a Medium and teacher and some, quite a few, of which I have hated and put up with for only days. I found them, or rather the principles of their working, soul destroying.

I shall give one example that of being a cable television sales person. It was most definitely the particular company for which I worked you understand nothing else. However, in two weeks it taught me a lot. They sold to those that did not need and could not afford it. Example, I found a little old lady - yes, I know cliché but there you go. I spent a good hour with her and realised she would be better off without the "excellent phone package" and I told her so. My conscience would never let me place her in the situation or distress of having to pay those bills over heating, eating and peace of mind.

Anyway, back to the story. My wife has always been hard working. She does in my humble opinion, sometimes work very hard indeed in the wrong direction. I struggled to pay these bills in very unequal measure. I then got to a point of "I am making myself ill, you are not listening to me, you are making it harder for both of us, and it is making me ill."

In December of nine-teen-ninety-five we bought our second home. I was again, as she used to remind me, on a lower wage and she had for the first time in sixteen years of marriage, now had the pleasure of paying the mortgage and many of the bills and I effectively still paying some ninety percent of my wages into the home.

Because of the way it came about my wife was now paying something like the same into the home. She did not like this. Rows ensued. She did not think it fair. Why should she not have any money? Why should she be paying most of the bills? Yes, exactly. She has had that pleasure up to date.

That one factor came about by Spiritual design, however, all else came about I think by my own instinct and guidance most probably, by Spirit. As mediums, we are blinkered as to our paths because otherwise we would not learn our own lessons and gain experience in our own lives. If we had "all the answers", we should have little point in being here.

That small example, that reflection induced by my guide has been a true revelation to me. A Spiritual truth came as again I learned the truth that "we only learn the lesson when we have achieved the level to understand it" it is a great thing no doubt about it.

With my wife continually making a rod for her back and I trying to make her understand it, I began to say very consciously but without full realisation until today, "ok then, it's your head, it's the wall you want, go for it" and then let her go for it. You can only help someone so much, you can only put up with so much self-detriment.

This attitude of letting them learn from their mistakes is not an easy option for either of us. It is of course one hundred percent natural. You hit your hand with a hammer, it hurts, end of.

For example, she would come home exhausted and start clearing up after the kids. I kept on telling her "the way to do it is to get the kids to clear up after themselves and that way they learn to not make a mess in the first place" it is that simple or am I confusing things here? It's good for the kids, it's good for her and its good for me because I don't stress over it either.

Life is not that simple is it? She has to kill herself by insisting that she chase after them "being a good mother." I want to point out here that we have two wonderful girls. Everybody says so and they are a shining example of two beautiful souls. Yes, they do have their faults, we all do it's what makes us human and I am very much of that ilk.

So she chases them, and chases them and… well you get the point. They don t learn, neither does the wife and everybody is unhappy. Unhappy because one person does not listen. The fact is telling them, tell them many times and then leave them to it. I have explained ad nauseum what is happening, what will happen and it has. The fact it has escapes them. That amazes me. It is as they say, as plain as the nose on their faces. So be it. Karma comes round and bites them, constantly.

So… my wife makes a rod for her own back and mind you, for the kids and in a way for me. It causes rows of course. Once again it is "my entire fault" there is so much "tidying to do" there are conflicts with the kids etc, etc, etc, yet the solution was so simple. I say was, because it has gone well past the point of no return in that one simple example. There are many examples, that very fact is so very sad.

I get the "you don't help" argument - and of course I do help but it is much more limited because, having been made quite ill for a number of years over all of this I do not see why I should suffer more only because "one person has made the situation bad for all" and "unlearn" or make the situation worse by falling into the same trap. My duty is to make life as easy as possible for all of us, not as my wife seems to believe, and so absolutely lives by, "no make it harder."

Therefore, life is made harder except for me, but only in a way. Most of it flows past me now and this has not helped the marriage. Again, not that I haven't tried. I see things so much more clearly, now that I live by this rule, which as I say came to me by revelation this morning.

It is as simple as this. You can tell a child continuously, "That is hot" there is no understanding of such an abstract thing for a young child. Try explaining to a person blind from birth what a colour is. The child will only understand when they and of course we hope without too much pain, picks up that hot poker. This is why we are here. We learn by our mistakes. Or… some of us do.

Of course, we don't want harm for our child however, they will never forget the burning, and of course, when we give them a warning even though they don't understand it they should pay heed next time. Thinking on this, is it so hidden that with our world, kept in a nanny state, that there is so much trouble?

We have lifted or tried to remove the harm that the poker does not understanding that the burn is the lesson. Hence, we have no real dissuasion from the effects of wrongdoing, we have a society that says it is ok for me to break into your home and harm you but, if you harm me defending your property, I will sue you.

It is a society that says it is ok for me to explain that I had it hard, but you have to pay for me. A society that is litigation mad.

As I recall in America, some years ago a person scalded themselves with hot coffee and sued McDonalds for an extraordinary amount! What happened to common sense? The coffee was bloody hot, some of us like it like that, yes, it is hot, because I am so stupid and careless you have to pay. Is this really the world we want to live in?

For me no, we are going against Spiritual law in that. Spiritual law says. Do what thy wilt (do what you want), but you must make amends. Hence, we have the world as it is today, for me in some ways, a far worse place than it should be.

Spiritual law says "personal responsibility" we cannot abdicate these laws. We should not abdicate these laws, follow them and there lies true happiness.

Follow karmic law all through your days and you will live a better life and the world along with you.

Much light,

Leo Bonomo and a guide, bless them all.